Prayer is a miraculous gift from God. We don't often think of it that way, but we should, because it is. 

In the 1828 Webster's Dictionary the word miraculous is defined as something, "Performed supernaturally, or by a power beyond the ordinary agency of natural laws; effected by the direct agency of Almighty power, and not by natural causes".

Even within a more modern resource like Dictionary.com, we find that miracles are attributed to, "an effect or extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers and is ascribed to a supernatural cause."

Prayer Is A Gift

This is why prayer, that is, the ability to communicate with the Almighty by approaching His throne of grace through prayer—is a miracle. Without God granting us eternal salvation through repentance and faith in Jesus Christ, no human being can approach God's throne of grace. Without being washed by the pure and precious blood of the Lamb of God, the only throne we can approach is the throne of God's judgment; where those who've rejected God's one and only Son, will be sentenced to the full wrath of God—eternal damnation in Hell.

"For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For His invisible attributes, namely, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse.

"but God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by His blood, much more shall we be saved by Him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of His Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by His life."

—Romans 1:18-20, 5:8-10 (ESV)

My salvation is a miraculous, gracious and merciful gift from the Lord, and so is any access I have to Him. That includes prayer.

How To Approach The Throne of Grace

Imagine if you were to meet with a CEO of a large corporation or royalty of any nation, would you approach him/her casually as if they were your equal, or would you approach him/her with the utmost respect? Would you approach them with an attitude of entitlement, or would you approach them with humility and jubilant gratitude that they would even give you an audience with them? Those of us who are in our right mind, would approach any person of importance with the utmost honor and respect and would be elated to have even a minute of their time.

So then, if God is greater than any human being, why do we approach Him with chumminess and sometimes, down right impudence; demanding the Lord to do our will? I believe one of the reasons is due to an often misused verse in Scripture: Hebrews 4:16, "Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need."

The Greek word used for "confidence" in Hebrews 4:16 is παρρησία, transliterated "parrēsia" which specifically refers to the manner of someone's speech—how someone of common stature might receive gracious permission to speak freely before the presence of someone of great authority (e.g., a king, military commander, parent, etc.). It is not however, the same Greek word used in 2 Corinthians 3:4 where the Apostle Paul states that our confidence is in Christ and not in ourselves. The word "confidence" in 2 Corinthians 3:4 is πεποίθησις transliterated "pepoithēsis" means to trust; to have full reliance on.

Therefore, we ought never assume to approach the LORD Almighty with pepoithēsis (confidence) in self, because without being washed with the blood of His Son, we have no right to even dream of having an audience with the Most High God; except to receive His wrath. But for those who've repented of their sins and trust (have full confidence) in Christ alone for this life and the next, we are invited by the Father to approach His throne of grace and speak freely about our needs; knowing we'll receive mercy and help rather than wrath and condemnation (Rom 8:1).

How We Should Pray

Understanding who the Almighty God is—a holy and righteous consuming fire (Heb 12:28-29), it makes sense our prayers would be filled with awe, thanksgiving and exaltation. It makes sense we'd want to align our prayers with His will and what most pleases Him, rather than align them with our will and what most pleases us. After all, what most pleases God is righteousness. And what usually pleases us, is the desires of the flesh and the desires of our eyes and the pride of life (1 Jn 2:16).

Though we ought to pray for physical health and healing, food, clothing, shelter, and all the things needed for this life; these prayers shouldn't outnumber our prayers for what's most beneficial—our spiritual health, protection and provisions.

The prayers of the faithful saints in the Old and New Testaments are vastly different from the prayers of the saints of the 21st century. Whenever we read prayer requests, share prayer requests, hear them announced corporately in church or elsewhere, unlike what's exampled in Scripture, the majority of our prayers are consumed with the cares of this world rather than the cares of God. Again, I'm not saying we ought not pray for these things, we should; we're commanded to. However, prayers for our physical needs shouldn't be the bulk of our prayers.

The primary focus of the prayers recorded in God's Word are for the exaltation of God's name (1 Sam 2:1-10); for God to search and test our hearts to see if there's any sinful way in us and lead us in the way everlasting (Ps 139:23-24); to remove from us falsehood and lying and give us neither poverty nor riches, but only give us what we need so we're not tempted to profane the name of the Lord with our pride and entitlement (Prov 30:8); to fill us with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, walking in a manner worthy of Christ, bearing good fruit, increasing in the knowledge of God, strengthened with all power to endure the temptations of this life with patience and joy (Col 1:9-12); and make us worthy of being called children of the Most High God, fulfilling every resolve for good and every work of faith by His power so that the name of Jesus may be glorified in our lives (2 Thess 1:11-12).

God said only when we pray His will, we will receive what we've asked for (Jn 16:23-24, Js 4:3). But if we want to pray God's will, we need to immerse ourselves in His Word; for that's where He's revealed His will for us.

Praying, that is, communicating with the Almighty without being immersed in His Word, is a foolish and fruitless work.

"My tongue will sing of Your word, for all Your commandments are right. Let your hand be ready to help me, for I have chosen Your precepts. I long for Your salvation, O LORD, and Your law is my delight. Let my soul live and praise You, and let Your rules help me."

—Psalm 119:172-175 (ESV)

Rather than give yourself over to anger for insults (Prov 19:11), be mindful of the Scriptures when you encounter those who oppose you for staying true to God's Word.

On March 26, 2015, a monumental act was signed in the beautiful and picturesque state of Indiana. Since the signing of this act, ugly and false accusations have been hurled at Governor Mike Pence by the bullies of the LGBTQIA. I know in the news, you'll only see the acronym LGBT used, but it's not accurate since all hands are on deck when it comes to trying to ring the neck of Governor Mike Pence and anyone else who stands with him.

Before I continue, I want to clarify that I'm sure not everyone who is a lesbian, gay, transgender, etc. person, is part of this monstrous faction of LGBTQIA who, like bullies, purposely target and threaten those who are not like them. I'm sure there must be some who are a part of the LGBTQIA community who despise this hypocrisy, and truly aspire to allow all people to peaceably live as they choose, rather than impose their lifestyle choice on others.

If you're not familiar with the acronyms, I'll give you a quick update. LGBT stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender. However, many who've chosen this lifestyle (yes, it's a lifestyle choice, not a biological race) feel LGBT isn't as accurate as it needs to be, and I agree. So the new acronym is LGBTQIA which stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer (or Questioning), Intersex (neither distinctively male nor female in physical appearance) and Ally (those not part of the LGBTQIA community, but are friends of the cause) or Asexual (someone who's void of sexual attraction).

It is the LGBTQIAs like the CEO of Angie's List, Bill Oesterle (an ally) who has banned with others to destroy everything our great country was founded on: Freedom. Freedom of speech, freedom to practice religion outside of government rule, freedom to live as God has ordained without immoral and questionable choices of man forced upon them. Freedom to protect ourselves and our right to live as civil people, one nation, under God, indivisible; thus, we are the United States of America. But perhaps we won't be much longer if those who know better sit idly by while this faction of the LGBTQIA strips every American of their freedom, and forces their agenda and their lifestyle choices on every citizen.

This is not love, tolerance or inclusiveness. This is tyranny. This is bullying. Once any individual forces their personal life choices upon another human being, you are no longer acting in love, nor tolerant of the life choices of others, nor inclusive of their beliefs. But you are now being an arrogant, hateful, intolerant and exclusive group of people who demand and impose your lifestyle choice on others.

There are more secular businesses (i.e., bakeries, tailors, sandwich shops, etc.) than religiously owned and operated businesses. But there's a faction of bullies in the LGBTQIA who target Christian businesses to try to force them to submit to their ways.

The act that disturbed the nest of the LGBTQIA Leviathan and all its comrades is called the the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Please read it for yourself rather than listen to and be frightened by the fiery bellows of those who participate in this faction. This act neither endangers the lifestyle nor promotes discrimination of anyone in the LGBTQIA community. Rather, it protects innocent people of all religions (whether Christians, Jews, Muslims, etc.) from being sued and forced to comply with those who disagree with their religious views and practices.

What that means is, if someone who's part of a white supremacists group shows up at a t-shirt shop owned and operated by a black person, that owner of the t-shirt shop is protected and can't be sued just because he/she won't make t-shirts that say "I Love the KKK". Likewise, it would protect a Muslim restaurant owner from being forced to serve pork, or a Jewish business owner from having to offer anything that's not kosher. This isn't a Christian law, it's an American law that protects the freedom and rights of all its citizens to practice their religion without fear of retribution. This is America folks.

Christians, let's stand up and let our voices be heard. After all, are we not commanded by God our Father to do justice, love kindness and walk humbly with our God (Micah 6:8)? So let us protect those (e.g., Governor Mike Pence) who are being unjustly accused and abused with insults just because they want to keep our country free from any kind of tyranny.

My darling husband is writing to Bill Oesterle, CEO of Angie's List, to tell him why we're canceling our subscription with them. And I encourage all of you to do the same. Let our voices be heard where Mr. Oesterle can hear them...from the emptiness of his bank vault.

While we understand that during our short stay here on earth, we have to do business with and lovingly live and work alongside unbelievers, we can't partner with those who promote and fight for unjust causes. Causes that punish people, whether Christian, Muslim, Jew, or people from any other religion to lose their livelihood or to have it jeopardized because of bullies who demand every citizen to participate in their lifestyle choices. This is not America folks. This is tyranny—plain and simple.

We know the world needs the Gospel of the grace of God (Acts 20:24). And no transformation of hearts or minds can be made without the new life in Christ. Therefore, let us diligently share the Gospel and lift our voices to protect the God-given freedoms of all men and women. Let us not sit idly by while states are boycotting states. The world is watching. And we all know—united we stand, divided we fall.

Let us be the bond of peace and the voice of reason in this great country the Lord our God put us in, no matter the cost, for just a time as this.

"Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God."

~Hebrews 12:1-2 (ESV)

As I was considering why my prayers are sometimes shallow, I realized they stem from one source: lack of consistent reading, meditating and studying God's Word. And I don't mean just going through the motions and reading Scripture just so I can check it off my list, pat myself on the back and go on with my day; still charged with my fleshly desires, thoughts, and habits. What I mean is, the lack of desire to read the Word of God, not to get something from Him, but just to be with Him—to know Him more, in order to love Him better (Ps 46:10).

I know my prayers are shallow when I'm overcome by my weaknesses. I know my prayers are shallow when I'm wallowing in self-pity because I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I know my prayers are shallow when they're filled with my desires, how I think my life and the life of others around me should be. I know my prayers are shallow when they're filled with my limited knowledge of circumstances rather than filled with the wisdom of God (James 3:17). I know my prayers are shallow when they're consumed by my words, my thoughts, and my desires rather than consumed and guided by God's Word, precepts, and holiness.

"Thus says the LORD: 'Let not the the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understand and knows Me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.' "

~Jeremiah 9:23-24 (ESV)

This is the God I want and need to know and understand better. I need to know the LORD who alone is God—the one who practices steadfast love (mercy), justice, and righteousness. I don't need to know the feel-good, cheap-graced god that many of us have created in our own image. You know, the one who "loves you just the way you are", but not enough to discipline you (Heb 12:7-8)? The one who only says the things that make you feel good and self-assured, but not the one who humbles you so your spirit can be sanctified. This is the false god of modern day evangelicalism and I'm not interested in him at all.

When my prayers are shallow, I know it's because I've already spent too much time with this false god that only cheers but never chastises me. And I know myself well enough to admit...I need both encouragement and rebuke. And if you're honest with yourself, you'll admit, you need both too.

"He [Christ] is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by Him all things were created in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through Him and for Him. And He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. And He is the head of the body, the church. He is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in everything He might be preeminent. For in Him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell, and through Him to reconcile to Himself all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of His cross.

"He [Christ] is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of His nature, and He upholds the universe by the Word of His power. After making purification for sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high"

~Colossians 1:15-20, Hebrews 1:3 (ESV)

This is the God I want to worship and love—the one I need and want to guide my prayers.

When I'm not daily reading God's Word in order to know Him more so I can love Him better, then my prayers will be shallow. And so will yours. However, if we incline our hearts to His ways and not to selfish gain (Ps 119:35-37), then our prayers are guaranteed to be deep and wide, and very effective. We need to daily discipline our bodies and minds to read, meditate and study the awesome Word of God, so that our prayers are led by the Spirit of God and not by the defilement of our flesh.

If you're looking for a way to remain steadfast in God's Word daily, here's the reading plan I use and recommend: Professor Grant Horner's 10 Lists Bible Reading System.

I know I don't mean to do it as often as I do. And I'm sure no one else does (or, at least I hope not). But we all do it more than we should, and even once is more than enough. What is it? It, is our tendency to palliate, that is, lessen the severity of, without remedying—our sins and the sins of others—particularly those who sin similarly to us. And if we happen to like them, their sins aren't as bad as others, or even worse, we choose to be blind to their sins altogether.

This is truly a grievous activity.

How do we do it? Well, I'm not going to presume upon how others might do it, but I sure know how I do it. And it's often subtle because it's cloaked in the worldly definition of love. The love that says, "I'm okay, you're okay" therefore never does or says anything that might make you dislike or reject me. So, when I see you sin, and especially if it's a sin similar to mine, I might say something like, "Oh, well...none of us are perfect." Or if I want to throw a dash of false humility in this brew of sin I'm concocting, I might even add, "After all, I've done (or am doing) the same thing."

Now, there's absolutely nothing wrong with admitting a sin and making a connection with whomever I'm speaking with. What's wrong is that I stop there. I don't do what I know I is right (James 4:17) and therefore, I sin...again.

If I'm truly living Ephesians 4:29 and cared more about the Lord and your relationship with Him (than I care about your relationship with me), I wouldn't stop after I confessed committing the same sin. After noting this mutual weakness in the flesh, I would say, "We both need to repent and be grateful for God's forgiveness in Christ Jesus. And if we're truly grateful for His grace, we'll both commit to write God's Word on our hearts concerning this matter so we don't keep sinning against Him. Will you keep me accountable?" Then I would immediately begin looking up Scriptures to strengthen us so we might not sin like this again. Moreover, I would pray that the Lord would write His Word on our hearts (Ps 119:10-11, 24).

If I truly love the LORD my God, I will love what He loves and hate what He hates. If I truly love Jesus, though I may never be sinless on this side of Heaven, I will aspire not be a repeat offender of the same crime.

So, if you ever catch me involved in this sinful activity of palliating my sin and yours, please rebuke me. Please remind me that this wicked attempt to make us both more comfortable about our sins is what caused our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to leave His heavenly throne, descend into His own creation, be abused and crucified, and rise on the third day, so we might escape the wrath of God and receive forgiveness for our sins and inherit eternal life.

I don't know about you, but I don't want to live in the putrid cesspool of my sins. I want to live in the glorious new life Jesus died to give me—the life of a daughter of the Most High God, washed clean, and dressed in the robe of Christ's righteousness.

"The LORD is my portion; I promise to keep [treasure] Your words. I entreat Your favor with all my heart; be gracious to me according to Your promise. When I think on my ways, I turn my feet to Your testimonies; I hasten and do not delay to keep [protect] Your commandments."

~Psalm 119:57-60 (ESV)

When we were little children, the first time we received a lollipop or a shiny sticker from our doctor, we were overjoyed and grateful. The second time, we were again excited about trying a new lollipop flavor and the new sticker we could get. Perhaps this time, it would be a scratch and sniff! But the third time, we begin to grow weary with the same old lollipop and sticker choices. So we snuff our noses as we walk by the lollipops and stickers and brighten our eyes to the new, bigger and better prize we have earned! Yep. Earned.

As cute and cuddly as we are when we're little, we're still sinners waiting to tell the world what our demands are and by golly, they better deliver. We start first with our parents. Much like our doctor's visits, we act as if our parents owe us something. For what? Our mother's owe us because she carried us for nine months, fed us, sacrificed her figure and health and some of them, their lives? Our mother's labor for us from the day she conceives until the day one of us dies, and for this, she owes us....what?

Our father's work tirelessly and sacrificially to provide a roof over our heads, food in our bellies and clothes to cover and warm our bodies. And if we're blessed with parents who love the Lord Jesus, then they spend hours reading and studying the Bible themselves and teaching and training us in the love and admonition of the Lord. Christian parents pour out their whole hearts and lives to their children so that they may know Christ and be known by Him.

Additionally, we think our children owe us something because we're doing just as God has commanded? They are God's gifts to us, to draw us nearer to Him; to remind us we can't do anything ourselves (even take care of a helpless infant). Our children humble us and bring us to our knees. And for this, we ought to continually give thanks to the Lord.

Sadly, this uncomely cycle of self-adulation and entitlement extends to our adulthood.

Even as adults, when we first meet a new friend and they share a kindness with us, whether in word or deed (or both), we are very touched and extremely grateful. We're so moved by their kindness, we want to tell our spouse, our children, and everyone on social media. But after this person does something kind a second or third time, we're no longer filled with the same gratitude we first had, rather—we expect it.

Why does this happen? Why does familiarity breed ingratitude and if not dealt with, lead to contempt?

Pride. Entitlement. Ingratitude. Contempt. That's how.

Ever since Adam and Eve committed the first sin in the Garden (believing they could be like God), all humanity has been cursed with insatiable pride that tells us we are owed everything good and nothing bad. This makes us feel entitled, which leads to ingratitude and when we don't recognize and repent of this, we become contemptuous, impatient and unkind to others.

How we see ourselves and those around us, greatly affects our relationship with God. If we can be so prideful, feel so entitled, be so ungrateful and contemptuous towards those we can see, how much more do we behave the exact same way towards God whom we can't see (1 John 4:20)?

We think too much of our own "good" deeds and too little of others. And sadly, sometimes the "good" we think we're doing isn't really a blessing to others, but rather, a burden. It may surprise us to discover, when we get to Heaven, that the time we think we spent blessing someone, was actually, the other way around. It was a sacrifice and unpleasant experience for them to be with us, therefore, a great blessing to us, rather than to them. And we missed it.

We're left in this sad and destructive state as long as we don't repent and remember what Christ did for us on the Cross at Calvary. As much "good" we think we do, we don't and can't do it unless God works it through us (Eph 2:10). Unless God gives us the seed to sow, unless God blesses us with anything to give whether in word or in deed, we have nothing but evil to give anyone (1 Cor 4:7).

The truth is, we owe God everything; and therefore, are indebted to generously love others well because God first gave generously and loved us well.

What we give to the Lord and to others is so minuscule compared to what has been given to us by our Father through our Lord Jesus Christ.


Let us never assume we're so familiar with others and with God that we feel as if they owe us every good and no evil. And let us always be surprised and grateful for any act of kindness that comes our way. After all, we probably don't even realize the great sacrifice some people make in order to give us a widow's mite.

The next time you sense yourself feeling slighted or indignant about a kindness that wasn't given to you that you assuredly knew you deserved, look to the Cross. No true Christian can fix their eyes on Jesus' costly sacrifice and then turn to see themselves as anything more than an utterly humbled and grateful servant who feels as they should—unworthy of the price that had to be paid to set them free.

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Yesterday, on my way home from the grocery store, I was overwhelmed by a very small act of kindness. Not one done to me, but one I was able to offer a total stranger.

As I neared a construction area in my neighborhood, I saw a man driving a truck wishing to come out of the alleyway. He was unable to because no one driving either north or south would allow him entrance onto the main road since we all had to share a single lane due to the construction. I understand. It was rush hour and everyone was trying to get home.

When it was my turn, and I had the right of way, I stopped and waved him in. He was hesitant and looked to the car coming southward, but they saw me and stopped too. The driver of the truck smiled, carefully drove out, and gave me a warm wave of thanks. I smiled, nodded and waved back. Then I smiled and waved at the driver who joined me in this very small act of kindness and they smiled and waved back.

Unexpectedly, as I thanked God for this opportunity to show a stranger this very small act of kindness...I began weeping. I was overtaken by the fact that I could experience such joy over something no one else involved in this situation would probably ever remember. I mean, this isn't the kind of thing anyone goes home and writes about (well...obviously...present company excluded). This very small act of kindness isn't something we'll eagerly tell our family and friends or even years from now, reminisce fondly and repeatedly tell our grandchildren about. It's simply a very, very, very small act of kindness.

So why am I writing about it? Why am I telling you about it? Why is this small act such a big deal?

It's a big deal because the instant I thanked God for allowing me to experience exuberant joy for such a small act of kindness, I realized how very depraved I am without Christ. As I thanked God for allowing me to notice that other person, the small need he had at the moment, and that I was able and desired to meet that need, filled me with joy.

Realizing I'm far too self-absorbed, selfish, and so many other words that begin with "self", to notice another human being, let alone a need they might have, I wept with thanksgiving in my heart to the Lord. In actuality, we're all a bit too self-something or other. We all complain too much, we all feel more entitled than we ought, and we all suffer from outright pride, or pride cloaked in self-loathing.

Our eyes are too fixed on self rather than on Jesus and that's why we disobey Him and why many won't acknowledge Him as who He is—the one true God, Creator of all we see and can't see, the King of kings, the Lord of lords and the only way of eternal salvation. Whether we want to admit it or not, and regardless of how meek a person may appear, disobedience to God in any form originates from pride. We all have it. And we all suffer from how it manifests itself—total human depravity.

But here's the thing, total depravity doesn't mean I'm as depraved as I can be and neither are you. Total depravity means we're all sinful and totally incapable of saving ourselves. But because of God's common grace, no human being is as depraved as they can be. Evil does not dominate the earth because God is God and He is gracious. The sun shines on both those who bear the righteousness of Christ as well as those who reject Him. God causes the rain to fall on the ground and bear fruit to feed both His children and His enemies.

Without God's common grace poured out to all creation, no human would be safe from constant evil bombarding them from their first breath to their last. None of us would ever be able to experience any joy in participating in any act of kindness, small or great because we simply wouldn't even think to do it. We're all too self-actuated. We are all that depraved (Rom 3:10-12).

Admitting I'm totally depraved without Christ isn't self-loathing. And it isn't depressing. It's actually an act of great confidence, that is, confidence in Christ's finished work on the Cross on my behalf. Those whom God has chosen to grant repentance that leads to saving faith, willingly bring and see all things in the light of God's truth so that it's clear that any and every good has been carried out by the mighty and compassionate hand of God (John 3:21)—even a very small act of kindness.

"For who sees anything different in you? What do you have that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do you boast as if you did not receive it?

"Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures."

~1 Corinthians 4:7, James 1:16-18 (ESV)

Any good we receive comes from God, even our "good" acts (James 1:17). For He is the one who prepared them for us that we might walk in them.

"For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them." ~Eph 2:10

Let us, as God's dearly beloved children, always find our worth, our joy and our peace, not in the people around us or in our circumstances (whether good or evil), but in Christ alone—mindful and grateful that in God's grace, He gives us the good we are not owed—and in His mercy, He withholds the evil we are owed.