My Second Love: Biblical Submission & The Proverbs 31 Woman

My Second Love was written out of my love for God and for all my sisters in Christ whom the Lord has inspired to travel the road of biblical submission, so together we may raise our voices as one (Ex 24:3, Rom 15:6); giving praise, glory and honor only to Jesus our Supreme and First Love; enabling us to biblically honor our husbands as our Second Love.

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Biblical submission is:

A beautiful gift for your husband and a precious offering to God.


"Praise the LORD! I will give thanks to the LORD with my whole heart, in the company of the upright, in the congregation. Great are the works of the LORD, studied by all who delight in them. Full of splendor and majesty is His work, and His righteousness endures forever. He has caused His wondrous works to be remembered; the LORD is gracious and merciful."
~ Psalm 111:1-4

This is a verse-by-verse study of biblical submission and how it pertains to the passage in Proverbs 31:10-31, which is an acrostic poem based on the Hebrew alphabet, and an oracle taught to King Lemuel (meaning, "devoted to God") by his mother (Proverbs 31:1). Most scholars reason King Lemuel is King Solomon since Solomon was also called Jedidiah which means "beloved of the LORD" (2 Samuel 12:25).

Therefore it is speculated that Bathsheba, King Solomon's mother, taught him this oracle that is filled with wisdom on what kind of woman a man of God ought to seek for a wife—one of excellent character, in accordance with God's standards, found in His Word.

Every chapter in this study is based on the biblical definition of submission, how it is fulfilled by the seemingly elusive Proverbs 31 woman; and how God-fearing, Christ-loving women of our day can realize her true calling as a daughter of the Most High God.

You'll be provided insights concerning the spiritual essence of every verse, as well as practical ways every woman of God can apply these biblical principles to her life. 

At the end of each lesson, you'll find soul-searching questions to help you grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ, see yourself and your life with eternal perspective, and view others as God our Father sees them—with His infinite wisdom, love and compassion rather than with our introspectively-skewed and finite understanding. 

As you journey down this narrow and rarely traveled road to biblical submission, please allow the Holy Spirit of God to prune, refine and shape you. Ask God for His discipline. Painful as it may be, we can trust it because we know God's discipline is good and loving, for His discipline leads us out of the entrapment of sin and into the freedom found only in the righteousness of Christ (Hebrews 12:7-11). 

In light of Ecclesiastes 5:1-3, pray and memorize Psalm 139:23-24 and Psalm 19:14. Then share how applying these Scriptures in your life has impacted you and your family with your local study group, disciple, family, etc., so that others saints in the Lord may be encouraged and edified by your faith (Rom 1:11-12). 

Since the Word of God alone has the power to transform hearts and renew minds, be sure to read every Scripture written or referenced along with the entire chapter each Scripture is found in so that you may read God’s word in the context in which He wrote it. Cultivating this habit will keep you from reading God’s word with your emotions and preconceived notions of what you want it to mean. 

This is not a feel good study, but it is full of practical applications and exhortations to do good (Heb 10:24, James 2:18, 26).

"A major distinction exists between the ancient marble-crafters and the God of eternity, however. They worked with lifeless stone, and what emerged was the product of their own skill and choice...Becoming like Jesus Christ must be at the center of our understanding of what it means to be a child of God on this side of eternity. And like the artisans of old, God's methods necessitate pain, the removal of what we might rely upon, and great amounts of time and patience....There's much within each of us that would implore the Master to quit the work, to let us be content as an unfinished piece. We are frail people living in formidable times. Pain, difficulty, suffering, loss, and rejection are regarded as enemies in our postmodern world. But in the hands of a loving Father, afflictions and difficulties are meant to be the agents of glorious change for those who submit to the work of the Master's hand."
~Fran Sciacca
My prayer is, that as wives, we will embrace the purpose in which our Creator God and Father through the Lord Jesus Christ originally intended for us when He so wisely and carefully designed us. And as we abide in Christ, I pray that we, as daughters of the Most High God will use the influence He gave us as a tool to turn the hearts of our families, neighborhoods, cities and perhaps even our countries toward God. 

Please join me in this prayer.

But now, O LORD, You are our Father; we are the clay, and You are our Potter; we are all the work of Your hand.
~ Isaiah 64:8

Warning: Before you begin this study, first read Luke 14:27-33 and consider carefully the cost of traveling down this road to Christ-likeness. This study will be intense and requires a strong resolve to dedicate yourself to be an active and willing participant as the Holy Spirit conforms you into the likeness of Jesus Christ.